Before you love me:
I can’t promise you I’ll never change; it’s just not realistic. I will always change; what I can promise you is that it all my changes will come with the best of human intentions for myself and in turn for you and the life we have together.

Before you love me:
Make sure you’re ready for it. I want the kind of love portrayed in the greatest forms of arts and poems and movies but without the drama. I don’t expect everything to be perfect all the time, but my expectation would be that every day with you would hold a specific kind of beauty that although alone it would be there, the sheer level of appreciation would be unattainable without you by my side.

Before you love me:
Keep in mind that I have loved before and suffered for it. The only suffering I will ever allow love to hold for me again is the kind that separates lovers by death. I will not sacrifice myself or my dreams and if you choose to walk out of my life I will not ask you to stay.

Before you love me:
Try to be as aware of my imperfections as I am or even moreso. Talk to me about them; not in a demeaning way, but in a constructive and growing way. If they are imperfections about myself that I personally appreciate you will simply need to learn to accept them and let them go. Although, you may just have to be patient and allow me the time necessary to alter my perspective and recognize the improvements I could make. No one is perfect though, so just remember to love my imperfections as I will love yours.

Before you love me:
Just appreciate me. Plain and simple. I will multiply the joy and the love you bring into my life and share it with you for all of time.

Me, 09.22.13

Something that I wrote for myself when I found myself falling (much harder than I expected to) for my partner last year. Not everyone has complicated or unreasonable thoughts on love, I don’t think my expectations when it comes to love are unreasonable and I’m happy that a lot of this was verbalized in one way or another as we got to know each other better.

Remember to articulate your expectations and intentions - even if it’s only to yourself at first, it is so very important.

Dear Human: You’ve got it all wrong.
You didn’t come here to master unconditional love.
That is where you came from and where you’ll return.
You came here to learn personal love.
Universal love. Messy love. Sweaty love.
Crazy love. Broken love. Whole love.
Infused with divinity. Lived through the grace of stumbling.
Demonstrated through the beauty of… messing up. Often.
You didn’t come here to be perfect. You already are.
You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous.
And then to rise again into remembering.
But unconditional love? Stop telling that story.
Love, in truth, doesn’t need ANY other adjectives.
It doesn’t require modifiers.
It doesn’t require the condition of perfection.
It only asks that you show up. And do your best.
That you stay present and feel fully.
That you shine and fly and laugh and cry
and hurt and heal and fall and get back up
and play and work and live and die as YOU.
It’s enough. It’s Plenty.